This piece of paper is where my fear of failure came from and solidified each passing year. Words get stuck in our minds with super glue. Sometimes you can't pull it off. And when you're young and impressionable, you make it a part of your identity.
Repeated Words➡️ Beliefs ➡️ Identity!
I AM A FAILURE!
Not that I had failed at something, but I was a failure. I've always internalised my failures way more than my successes. All I would remember was what I did wrong as opposed to the gazillion things I did RIGHT!
How biased was my view?
This 'fear of failure' has stopped me from so many things, to not even try because I'd self-sabotage it anyway. Confirmation bias for the win!!
It took a soul clean up to realize THIS IS NOT MY IDENTITY!
Damn, this ridiculous piece of paper is 15 years old, and I've got older ones. Do I still give it power? No way!! 🤣
Free beliefs that have come with this fear:
I am a bad learner.
I can't do anything right.
I can't make mistakes.
I can't look bad at what I do.
I'm not going to 'pass.'
I'm not as good as others.
I'm not worthy of success.
I can't ask questions.
I don't understand a lot of things.
I need to be the hardest worker.
I need to be excellent at ONE THING!
Argh. How exhausting!
My past self is a beast. Thank you for never giving up, you idiot. Thank you for showing up today! I'm goddamn proud of your power.
Onward and upward!
PS. Where does your fear of failure come from?